"I DO"....NOT


So, Valentine’s day is tomorrow, how are you and your partner going to celebrate? Are you going to buy/ receive flowers, chocolate, ect? Maybe you booked an expensive dinner reservation that you can go to any other time of the week for probably less money and less crowded. 

What I’m trying to go with this is, have you noticed that there is a social “norm”, especially for relationships? In today’s society; if you post a cute picture with your significant other it’s #couplesgoals, if you don't post a picture with your significant other people assume you two are on bad terms and on the verge of breaking up; you HAVE to get each other gifts for Valentine’s Day (and post it for the whole world to see) and I can’t forget, the man HAS to pay for everything. Ask yourself this, have you fallen into today’s social norm in your relationship? 

I’m here to tell you that you don’t need to follow these “norms” in order to be in a happy relationship. Shocker, I know. I can gladly say that my boyfriend (Marby) and I have gone against what society claims to be “normal” and we couldn’t be happier. So, what I have for you today is some advice that you and your partner can do/ use to help build a strong/ healthy relationship, based on my personal experience and what has worked for us.


  1. Be each other’s best friend.
  2. Have sex, it’s important. 
  3. Ladies: make your own money and never let a man tell you, “you have this because of me”.
  4. Fellas: Stop buying her gifts every week. Stop paying for every dinner.
  5. You don’t need to tell each other “I love you” every 5 minutes. Actions speak louder than words.
  6. Don’t let one partner pay for everything. Instead, go half & half on things such as: dinner, gifts, vacations, ect.
  7. You don’t need to buy each other gifts (especially on Valentine’s Day/ holidays) to prove that you love each other.
  8. Stop envying every happy couple you see on social media. Social media is a lie.
  9. Learn from each other, grow together, support each other’s dreams.
  10. Arguments/ disagreements are normal.
  11. Communication, communication, communication.
  12. It’s ok to spend time away from each other.
  13. Accept each other's flaws. Stop trying to change them. 
  14. Your relationship is nobody else’s business.
  15. It’s ok not to post your significant other on your social media accounts. 
  16. You don't have to get married if you don’t want to. Even if you’ve been together for years.
  17. It’s ok to not want to have kids.
  18. Stop bringing up things they did in the past.
  19. Trust is key.
  20. It’s ok to like other peoples pictures on social media. 

Rule of thumb: do what makes YOU happy, not because society is telling you what’s "normal".

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